I’ve been thinking and feeling into the concept of forgiveness this week. Why is it so challenging to feel it for so many of us? Why do some people forgive easily when others struggle so much with it? And what’s going on with folks who hold grudges for years against people who they perceive to have wronged them?

Looking through the lens of “a pattern of lessons in my life” can sometimes help me shift perspective. It allows me to take a step back and remember that every human is walking their own path - learning the lessons that they need to. Given that truth, I know that I can’t fully understand, much less control how they learn those lessons.

What do you do to support yourself and your loved ones through difficult times?

What do you know, with deep knowing, to be the most helpful and soul-nourishing practices for you? What helps you remember that ‘happiness is the way’?

… but only very recently have I discovered, to my horror, that the seemingly enlightened, feminist “wu wu” culture that I now spend a good amount of time in - has its own devious set of “shoulds” - especially in the area of love and relationships!

There is within human nature an amazing potential for goodness.

- MLK

I did not make any resolutions this year. But I did take time to “take stock,” so to speak. I spent time examining and writing about myself with the goal of celebrating my own accomplishments and awesomeness, acknowledging my failures in order to see where and how I can expand further into integrity, compassion and confidence, and clarifying my goals.

What do you call your yoni? (And for my men friends - what do you call this part of a woman?) Or do you not call it anything - just gesture to it when necessary saying vaguely down there…?

Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.” But I say unto you, they are inseparable.

In my book Choose Love: A Simple Path to Healthy, Joyful Relationships I have a chapter called “Presence with Parents and Siblings” in which I discuss how helpful it is to let go of expectations and “shoulds” in these close relationships.

What do you do if your partner doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved? Do you settle for the love that they offer or do you turn it down with the hope of finding someone else?